“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up… A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9–12)
Pregnancy is a miracle, a beautiful, stretching, and humbling journey. While every expectant mom has her own unique experience, one thing is certain: you are not meant to walk this path alone.
Whether it’s your first pregnancy or your fourth, the importance of having a strong, godly support system around you cannot be overemphasized. The right voices in your corner can carry you in prayer when your strength feels low, lift you up with encouragement when your emotions are everywhere, and surround you with joy when anxiety tries to sneak in.
God Designed Us for Community
From the very beginning, God emphasized that it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). This truth applies to parenting too. He wired us for community, for fellowship, for sisterhood and brotherhood, for shared strength. Galatians 6:2 says “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Pregnancy is a sacred season, but also a vulnerable one. Hormonal shifts, physical changes, and emotional roller coasters can sometimes make you feel isolated, even when you’re surrounded by people. That’s why intentional, spirit-filled connection matters.
You need people who will not just celebrate the baby shower with you, but pray you through midnight fears, speak life over you and your baby, and stand with you in faith when doctor reports bring worry. You need those who can discern spiritual things, hold your hands, and say, “Let’s go to God together.”
Beyond the Bump, When the Real Work Begins
Here’s the thing: This godly community isn’t just important during pregnancy, it becomes even more vital after the baby arrives.
No matter how strong or independent you are, there will be many ‘night vigils’, and I am not talking about the church kind. These are the nights where your precious little one just refuses to sleep, or needs to be fed every other hour. If you’re planning to exclusively breastfeed for 3–6 months, or even combine breastmilk with age-appropriate supplements, you’ll quickly learn that those tiny tummies fill and empty fast!
It can become such an endless cycle of feeding, burping, rocking, and changing diapers that you might start to feel like that’s all your life is about. It can get so tiring that, like me, if you don’t give yourself the grace to rest, you might just find yourself looking for your baby… only to realize you’re already holding them! 😂
You don’t need to do it all. You only need to do it with grace, with wisdom, and with support.
This is where your support system becomes gold. They are your:
- Friends or family who can help around the house so you can catch some much-needed rest.
- Trusted moms and dads who’ve walked this road before and can calmly tell you, “You’re doing okay. That’s normal.”
- Sisters and brothers in Christ who will pray with you, gently counsel you, and remind you that this too shall pass.
What a Godly Support System Looks Like
- Prayer Partners: Women and men who will intercede with and for you. You don’t have to say much, they’ll sense your need in the spirit.
- Wise Counsellors: Those who’ve gone ahead and can guide you with wisdom seasoned by experience and God’s Word.
- Encouragers: Friends who remind you of God’s promises when you’re overwhelmed. A timely scripture or simple, “You’re doing well” can be healing.
- Helpers: Whether it’s food, chores, or just sitting with you to keep you company, God sends practical support too.
- Spiritual Covering: Your church family and pastors who declare God’s Word over you, visit, and help you stand strong in faith.
Be Open to Receive and Prepare for Something Beautiful
Sometimes, in trying to be strong, we close off the very help God sends. But motherhood, just like pregnancy, is not a time to prove strength. It’s a time to lean into grace, and allow others to be God’s hands and voice in your life.
If you’ve been carrying it all alone, this is your cue to invite the right people in. Ask God to show you who you can trust. Not everyone is called to walk this intimate journey with you but God always sends a remnant.
And if you already have a solid support system, be grateful. Nurture it. Sow into it. And when the time comes, be that support for another mama or dad walking their own journey of expectation.
Biblical Examples of Godly Community in Pregnancy and Parenting
I truly believe the Bible holds an example for every principle we need to live by! While it may not give you exact details of your situation, it’s filled with the stories of people’s lives. If you search the scriptures with an open heart, you’ll find that the wisdom and guidance you need are right there, wrapped in those stories.
God has always modeled the importance of community, even in the earliest stories of motherhood. Here are two powerful examples of how support systems played a role in preserving purpose, easing fear, and guiding destiny, from the very beginning.
Mary and Elizabeth: A God-Ordained Support System (Luke 1:39–56)
When the angel Gabriel told Mary that she would conceive Jesus Christ by the Holy Spirit, she was a young unmarried woman; hmmn, can you imagine? This was an extraordinary calling wrapped in potential misunderstanding, isolation, and fear. She was about to get into a situation of ‘you go explain tire, no evidence’
So, what did God do? He immediately connected her to someone who would understand her situation deeply: Elizabeth, her older cousin, who was also experiencing a miraculous pregnancy in her old age.
Mary didn’t stay isolated. She traveled to the hill country, a long journey, to stay with Elizabeth for three months (Luke 1:56). That was her first trimester. Can you imagine what those days were like for them?
- Two women, both pregnant by divine intervention.
- Sharing stories, praying together, comparing symptoms.
- Reassuring one another of God’s faithfulness.
- Worshipping and prophesying. Elizabeth’s baby leapt in the womb when Mary greeted her!. Elizabeth affirmed Mary’s calling with prophetic words!: “Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!” (Luke 1:45)
Jochebed: A Family-Fueled Support System That Preserved a Deliverer (Exodus 1–2)
Another example is Jochebed, the mother of Moses. Moses was conceived and born in one of the most dangerous times to have a male child. Pharaoh had issued a cruel decree: all Hebrew male babies were to be killed at birth (Exodus 1:15–16).
But Jochebed wasn’t alone. She had a support system, a godly, brave, and wise network of people who were willing to partner with her in faith:
- The Hebrew midwives, women who feared God more than Pharaoh, risked their lives and spared Hebrew boys, possibly including Moses.
- Her husband, Amram, stood with her in unity and courage as they defied Pharaoh’s decree.
- Her daughter, Miriam, became a watchful protector and divine strategist. After Jochebed placed Moses in a basket on the Nile, Miriam followed it, saw Pharaoh’s daughter retrieve it, and boldly stepped up to suggest a “nurse” from the Hebrews, bringing her own mother back into the picture as Moses’ caregiver! (Exodus 2:7–9). Can you imagine being paid to raise your own child!? what a blessing.
- And of course, God Himself, who orchestrated every part of that divine rescue.
Community can make the difference between survival and thriving, between despair and deliverance. Even in times of great threat or uncertainty, God can surround you with the right people to uphold your hands and preserve your seed.
For me, that community was my husband, our friends, and family, especially my mother-in-law, who, despite everything she was going through at the time, still provided incredible support, and my late father-in-law, who would lay hands on my belly and pray heartfelt prayers every time he saw me.
My brothers-in-law drove me to the hospital for my first delivery, and my husband’s cousin stayed by my bedside during both deliveries, letting me squeeze her for dear life! 😂 I must have squeezed her so much that she probably lost a kilo or two.
We’re Building That Community, And You’re Invited!
We’re not just talking about it, we’re building it for you. By the end of this week, we’ll be sharing a special announcement for all dads and moms who are intentional about rising to the occasion of raising children differently.
This space will be a safe haven for godly counsel, shared experiences, biblical parenting truths, and prayer. A place where no question is too small, and no concern is dismissed. A place to laugh, cry, grow, and walk together.
At the time of my deliveries, I was so exhausted I could barely pray. All I could do was mutter a few words in tongues under my breath, but even then, I could feel the prayers of loved ones surrounding me, it felt like I was being carried on their wings. Even those I hadn’t told about going into labor that day picked it up in the spirit and began praying for me. By morning, they were calling to check on me, saying, “Toju, how are you”? or “I suddenly heard your name in the night and began praying for you.”
This is the power of a community that provides wings of prayer for you to ride on.
We want to be that community where all you have to do is send a simple message, “Pray for me,” at any time of the day, and we’ll immediately pick up the line of intercession for you, standing with you until breakthrough comes. We are here to surround you in prayer, support, and encouragement, just as we all need it in times of challenge.
For now, this community will be open to:
- Married or unmarried parents who already have children
- Expectant parents
- Those raising children, whether biological or adopted
And for those who don’t fall under any of these categories just yet, please know this: when you’re ready to begin your own parenting journey, a loving family will be here waiting to embrace you.
