There’s no better place to wrap up this series than by looking to the source of all fatherhood: God Himself.
Throughout this week, we’ve explored what it means to prepare for fatherhood long before your child arrives. We’ve talked about presence, healing, observation, and intentionality. But here’s the truth: without the Fatherhood of God, you cannot fully grasp what it means to be a good father.
You see, the journey of fatherhood does not begin in the delivery room or the day you hold the precious little one your wife brought into this world. It begins the day a man opens his heart to be fathered by God.
This is one of the greatest paradoxes:
To become a good father, you must first become a good son.
God; Our First and Forever Father
When you think of God as Father, what comes to your mind?
For some, the word “father” brings comfort. For others, it brings pain, silence, or even fear. Yet God invites all of us; regardless of what our earthly fathers were like, to see Him in the right light, to experience His fatherhood.
If you’re unsure what a good father looks like, look no further than God. He is our perfect example.
He says:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
“I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters.” (2 Corinthians 6:18)
“Even if your father and mother forsake you, I will receive you.” (Psalm 27:10)
God doesn’t just provide; He is present.
Even when it’s easier to be busy, He says: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)
He is Loving. He doesn’t just love in words; He loves in sacrifice. 1 John 3:1 says: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us…”
He is Righteous. “The Lord disciplines those He loves.” (Hebrews 12:6)
He corrects not out of anger, but out of deep, redeeming love.
He is Compassionate. “As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him.” ( Psalm 103:13)
He Provides. “Your heavenly Father knows what you need.” (Matthew 6:32)
He is patient when it’s easier to be harsh.
Forgiving when it’s easier to withdraw.
Consistent when it’s easier to run.
You Are Not Too Young to Begin Becoming This Kind of Man
Fatherhood is more than feeding, paying bills, or giving instructions.
It is presence.
It is patience.
It is being personally involved in your child’s growth, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.
And that work begins now.
You are the first book your children are likely going to read before the Bible, their first glimpse of who God might be.
How do you carry that weight if you’ve never seen it done well?
How do you lead a family when you’re still healing from the wounds of your own childhood?
You go back to the Source.
You let God father you.
Let Him father you through His Word.
Let Him father you through prayer.
Let Him father you in quiet moments where He pulls the broken parts of you into wholeness.
Because only whole sons can raise whole sons.
Only men who have tasted mercy can raise merciful children.
Only men who’ve known love in its purest form can give love without fear.
If you are are going to father well, you must begin by learning to be fathered well.
That means:
- Submitting to God’s discipline.
- Trusting His process.
- Spending time with Him, not just for knowledge, but for transformation.
When we draw near to God, He doesn’t just change our hearts.
He reshapes how we love, how we lead, and how we parent.
You may not have had a model growing up. But you have one now.
God is the Father who makes all things new, including you.
The Future Belongs to Yielded Men
The future of godly homes doesn’t rest on perfect men.
It rests on yielded men, men who are willing to be led, shaped, and fathered by God.
As you rise into this sacred calling, don’t just aim to be a “better father” in human terms.
Aim to mirror the Fatherhood of God. In doing so, you will give your children the greatest gift:, not just your presence, but a glimpse of Him.
You are literally the first representation of God they have.
Make sure you don’t misrepresent Him.
